When is the right time to tell your partner that you are a female escort: on the first date, on the second, on the third? It is challenging to combine professional and personal life in any industry. But when your services involve dating other people in Birmingham or another city, the balance is even harder to maintain.
Often, some girls who are female companions have no boyfriend. These women do not want to complicate her life with someone who may not have an open mind. Even after completing her companion career, long after they gave up this job, some ladies met guys who were super obsessed with the fact that at one point she did that. Some were disappointed, others excited about it. But what is the sentimental life of people who are escorts in Birmingham or another city?
Some escorts admitted that the best relationship they had was with a person in the same industry. The reason is that when men find out the truth, they react only in two ways: accept the relationship or break the contact with the (former) escort. There is no other choice; otherwise, they will feel obsessed with the idea. Understandably, many men cannot accept the idea, but it is inappropriate when some choose the relationship just because they want to try new things.
Sometimes, the romantic relationship with a female escort does not last long, maximum 2-3 months. What can you answer him when he asks you how the day (or night) was at work, and the girl doesn’t want to talk about it? The thing is women who work in this industry in Birmingham or another city like their job. Which is a beautiful thing, but, typically, she hesitates to be open because she doesn’t want to make her partner jealous.
Therefore, these relationships usually last only if both partners work together in this industry or are somehow connected to it. Such a relationship is excellent and can last for many years. They will both feel comfortable, and they can talk about anything. Even if it seems incredible, for some escorts, it is challenging to find a boyfriend, and when she sees one, she accepts any behaviour from him, which is not good at all. Also, many men, when they find out what their girlfriend’s job is, assume that she does not have a sensitive soul.
If you lie to him and he finds out much later, the shock may be too big, and the chance of breaking up is very high. He will always bring this up when he is arguing and will never trust you, to the point where he will check your phone and email. You will break up even if he wants a family, and you are not ready to give up escorting for that. Then, when you return to the accompanying, you will not like any relationship even if one day you will meet a funny and lovely guy.
If you lie and do not tell the truth in the first months of each relationship, because you do not have the strength of character, most will judge you and say that they deserved from the first month to know such intimate details about you. Sometimes some escorts tell the truth in two steps. The girl first tells him that she has been doing this in the past, after a week the lady says to him that she still does it and she will probably not stop for any boyfriend. Some will be upset and leave. Others will realize it’s not such a big deal. It’s just a job – it doesn’t change you as a person.
Indeed, almost every guy you meet will have a nasty reaction when he finds out what job you have. They are usually shocked, after which they reevaluate your person. Maybe a boyfriend will tell you that you are the escort out of the need for attention and that it is just a phase in your life. Others will pretend that nothing happened, then never call again, which will make you realize that many people don’t know much about this industry.
If it’s not good to lie to the men you want to have a relationship with, but you can lie hard to the rest of the world: don’t tell the truth to sales assistants, taxi drivers, various people who ask you what you’re doing. You don’t have to say to them the reality, not out of shame, but to avoid long conversations you’ve had too many times.
Of course, if you want your relationship to last, and he asks you to give up the escort job for good, if you love him, when the relationship has become more serious, you can decide to go to another career, for example as a waitress and give up the accompanying job. Otherwise, you will find that you cannot involve emotionally with him if he does not accept your career as a female companion. It is a compromise that you will make even if, in a more liberal and educated world, more men in Birmingham or another city could accept you as you are. There is no point in having a double life and a dissociated personality.
Now back to the original question: when is it okay to tell him you’re a female escort? It’s probably best to do this on the second or third date. Let him know you better on the first date or even the second, and when you see that he likes you, tell him the truth. That way, he doesn’t love you yet, so he won’t suffer if he doesn’t accept the idea. But he knows you a little more about you so that he doesn’t give up on you for the simple fact that you are a companion. Sometimes he will be jealous, other times you will be jealous, and you will wonder if he book other female companions. But I think you will work well together as a couple if you go through vulnerable times and there is mutual respect between you.
Reading this blog I can totally relate to all this, being a guy, quite a while ago, I was out with family having a meal after which I went to the bar to pay, standing next to me was a girl who was stunning, I’m not that confident at these sort of thing but our eyes kept looking at each other, eventually she spoken to me, it was an instant thing were we were both were totally at ease with each other, I was shocked at our we got on in the first few minutes, we changed numbers and I thought after she would never message me and I never had the nerve to message her. The next day she did and we continued to message until the early hours and arranged a date the next day. The relationship was pure match. I thought she’s the one and she thought the same to me. She worked as a chef and had two children. She spent most of her time at my house along with her children who were 13 and 15 we all got along really well, in her spare time we did everything together. This was months after. I never spotted any signs as she would return home at around 12 at night all fresh and showered instead of smelling of cooking she told me that she showered at the hotel where she worked never thought anything of this, then on day I noticed a fair amount of cash in her hand bag which was left open. She told me that she was paid monthly and in part cash. I totally fell for it as I had no reason to doubt what she was saying to me.
I work in management in construction so I meet a large amount of people. I’ll go years without seeing sub-contractors. Then we always ending up meeting again one day I had on my site a contractor that I hadn’t seen for a while after a few days he said can I speak to you in private, I never thought anything of it as I was often an agony aunt for grown men. We sat down in my office and he said I’ve got something to tell you. He was married and had children of his own, he said of my Facebook account darren mark, your seeing a girl named xxxxxx and I said yes as I was so proud of her and I put her on a pedestal. He said what do she do for a living I replied a chef, the reply was I’ve got some news for you. He said this is going to hurt. My heart just split in two. He got his phone out a showed me a web site and pictures of a girl. All the pictures were faceless but what was behind the pictures was her house and contents. I just broke down. He said he wouldn’t speak to anyone about it. Later that evening she was working and her children were at their dads house for the weekend Saturday morning comes round and we arrange to go for a meal. I never said a word, until we were having the meal, then I just asked her and I said I’m going to ask you something and I want you to be honest. I never mentioned the pictures but she point blank denied everything it I never got angry no point. I kept going on and still she was still saying no, almost to the point where I actually believed her. We got home and spent the rest of the evening watching a movie. The next day it was starting to eat away. So I got the link from the guy and I said look, its your house, town and everything please don’t lie to me. So in the end she admitted it. I didn’t know what to do or think but we agreed that I need a few day to think about things. I was more angry for being lied to.
Mid week we met and I said look I didn’t care what you do but please never lie to me, its a job at the end of the day, she couldn’t believe that I excepted it but I’m an open book as we had a good relationship. We carried on as normal. For months but she started to change she was accusing me of being unfaithful to her, deleting my friends going though my phone ringing people, I never had anything to hide as I’ve always been faithful. Weeks later it got so bad that I was forced to end the relationship as she was making my life impossible and making me look stupid in front of my friends. This kind of job might bother a lot of guys probably a fair few, but if you truly love each other what does it matter, it never bothered me, escort need love too and at the end of the day, as long as they are safe and rules are followed its you she’s coming home too.